Yes Monday was a klämdag. A day before a red day (bank holiday) as they are known here in Schvedenland. Used to get 'em for free here at Kommunteknik, but times are hard and now we have to use a holiday day. Whilst Mormor, Sandra n Stella hit Simrishamn for some shopping me and the twins hit the beach. Then I got the hell out of dodge I was already out numbered 8-1, if you include cats n dogs. (Well ok, I guess Gunnar the cat counts on my side, but he's noticeably scarce most of the time.) And more female reinforcements were inbound.
I fled to Mats in Simlångsdalen (Swim along valley). For peace, games, lovely food and fabulous beer. But, above all, damn fine company. As is the custom a drink was made. Vanilla vodka and mojito mix. Mmmm. Followed by the exquiste Indian pop Thums Up and a dash of the same vodka. i have a whole host of excellent Mats' place pics. So i will have to post a nice juicy gallery of those. Starting with this Mayday batch. We played a new card game Red 7 and then some Airships (Giganten der Luften) which is one of my faves. According to Mats meticuolous statistics we've played 33 times. Africana also a fave, traveling around and gathering points. Sandra goes on ahead with Stella to do a bit of shopping at Bohlsson and then meet Emma. Me n the twins hang n clean n play n pack n fix. Then we get busy at the Dal. Time for a rest
Eckhart Tolle Quotes @EckTOLLEQuotes
"Only through awareness are you able to see: There is the situation and here is the anger I feel about it, and then realize there are other ways of approaching the situation, other ways of seeing it and dealing with it." This is definately one for me. Anger is my most unhelpful go to emotion. It's that realisatioin that they are two quite separate things. The situation and the anger i feel/think about it. Over on WassApp debate continues around gurus, spirituality, seashells, neuroplasticity and being in the now. I stumbled upon a podcast with Ruby Wax (The scientist, the monk and RW) which was interesting and provided a little more ’real’ science as the guy was a neurologist. I'm gonna try n link a youtube clip in another post...
Here’s a little I cobbled together off the Interweb: Every experience, thought, feeling, and physical sensation triggers thousands of neurons, which form a neural network. When you repeat an experience, or a thought over and over, the brain learns to trigger the same neurons each time. So, when neurons fire together they wire together creating pathways. Our brain cells communicate with one another via synaptic transmission–one brain cell releases a chemical (neurotransmitter) that the next brain cell absorbs. This communication process is known as “neuronal firing.” When brain cells communicate frequently, the connection between them strengthens. Messages that travel the same pathway in the brain over & over begin to transmit faster & faster. With enough repetition, they become automatic. That’s why we practice things like hitting a golf ball–with enough practice, we can go on automatic pilot. Psychologists have long known that negative thought processes follow this same pattern–the more we think about, or “ruminate,” on a negative thought, the more entrenched the thought becomes. Negative and traumatic thoughts also tend to “loop”–they play themselves over and over until you do something consciously to stop them. The more these negative thoughts loop, the stronger the neural pathways become, and the more difficult it becomes to stop them! This is why thoughts that cause depression, anxiety, panic, obsessions, and compulsions can become so difficult to combat. And along the way, these thoughts stir up emotional as well as physiological reactions. Takes a while to get going , but then quite interesting. Hanna and I go for a nice long walk in the woods together whilst the rest of the clan heads towards the sea. Easily the best place to chat. Er, the woods that is. Although I've nothing against talking by the sea either. Lotta n Stoffe have moved to Nybrostrand (New bridge beach) just outside Y-Town. Didn't see the bridge this time, but saw the beach. Think i once turned my ankle really badly on that goddamn bridge though. Back in the mists of time, walked back from Ales Stenar to Y-town with Sara. Annnyway. They've done an awesome job of renovating what was a 92 year old lady interior. And their place is like 3 mins walk down to the sea. Here is a 'mystery' woman getting some Astrid action. This is Alfie an alapaca pal that Joge has been petting! Thought you'd like that Joge xx.
As you can see the beach absolutely heaving with people. The first lookng back towards Ystad. The second towards Ales Stenar. Good looming cloud in that first one. Like its boiling slightly, as if a swarm of little alien spacecraft might burst forth. Hanna n Stella get to watch the bear with the occasional hard stare up at the library after some attempts at room tidying. Hanna making a very beautiful bed. The others...trying.
Me n the little ones hit the playground and do some chores. Karma yoga? After lunch there is a picnic fika in the woods and Stella gets to catch waterboatmen. There is a little bickering but generally they get along. On friday after the sauna i'm walking back to the car and i see this older kid beating on smaller one. The little one is on the tarmac. Then they move away. But as i near my car I see them up close n the bigger one is practically strangling the other with his arm around the neck. He's screaming. So I go over to break it up and they're shouting in a language i dont understand. I tell him in swedish to stop. I get him to let go of the little brother and he runs off crying. Then the bigger one starts crying. Its something about the little brother has the keys, the parents are all crazy. He has to change the parking timer. Then he runs off. Its quite shocking in a way. Partly coz i'm all blissed out from the sauna. Partly because although i know this shit goes on I very rarely see it. It certainly puts the 'bickering' into perspective. We grill again, Stella has a coupla chums over (twins) then we watch the rest of the movie. Klara falls asleep in my lap. Sandra gets back and I sprint for the door and out alone for a stroll! Oh glory days. Fantastic weather from start to finish this weekend. BBQ’s, deck life, sad kids/happy kids and a few cold beers. I’m still glowing slighlty now. (Also coughing a bit, with a sore throat mind. This Mancold just rolls on!)
Some palace time with the good Cord to kick things off. Then picked up Hanna and hit Staffanstorp for outdoor provisions. We dump stuff at home and open windows then pick up the little ones and finally Stella. Off to the woods first for a walk and a scream (them, not me). Good to release some of the wildness before hometime. The Four Bridges walk goes down well. Then grillin’ burgers. Everybody happy. A cold beer for Pappa in the sunshine. I’m wrangling all four alone through Thursday night to Saturday evening. Sandra has a course in Göteborg then shes hanging with the lovely Kenia. Later we chill in front of 'Finding Doris', a good movie for age span 3,6,11,46. I know, I know they aren't babes anymore (they'll always be my babies). But, well, toddler doesnt fly in the title as well. Here they are on the ,'The Four Bridges' walk, having completed three bridges. Pooh sticks and stones aplenty.
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